Dear Jen,
I have been dating a guy for about four months now, and I feel like I really want to be exclusive with him. Can you give me some advice as to when and how to bring up the “exclusivity” conversation?
—Wondering
Dear Wondering,
The exclusivity conversation is very important. I always recommend people actually have this conversation instead of just assuming their partner is exclusive, so you are definitely on the right track. The timing of the conversation is important. You don’t want to have it too early in the relationship or wait too long. I think four months is plenty long enough. Choose a time when the two of you are alone, having fun and are relaxed. Make sure you are going to have enough time for a good conversation so you both can express how you feel. Keep in mind that it’s normal to develop feelings after four months and you have a right to know where you stand, so go into the conversation feeling confident in your decision. Start your conversation by explaining that you have developed feelings and would like to be in an exclusive relationship. Tell him that you want to make sure you are both on the same page. Stop and Listen carefully. His initial response will tell you what to say and do next. Good luck. I hope you find out that he feels the same way you do.
—Jen
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Jenifer Rose, Owner of It’s Just Lunch (registered trademark) Personalized Dating Service is also the Creator and Producer of The Plush Life on Channel 2, Sundays @ 5:30 pm. Listen to Jenifer on The Buzz 1270 am on Sundays at 11:00 am. Her live radio show “Skirted Issues” covers dating, relationship, intimacy and romance topics.
