By Marc Hiscox |
Can you remember the last conversation where you went away disappointed because it did not end as you wanted? As you think back and analyze the conversation, your attention most likely is on what was lacking, rather than on the positive aspects and what can be done to improve the next conversation. Staying focused on the negative aspects, feeling guilty, or being judgmental towards them or yourself will most likely just create the same poor results for the next meeting.
Keep your Attention on your Intention.
• Identify your intention on the issue and the desire to reach their goal as well as yours. Decide on the priority and give it your singular attention. Know what is important to you and ask what is important to them.
• Give some thought about the issue and don’t just blunder through the conversation.
• To clear up a particular issue, stick to the issue and don’t allow yourself to get sidetracked. When interacting with another person, be clear in your communication.
Slow down and ask, “What do I want right now from this situation?”
• Creating a harmonious relationship is far more important than the issue. As you recognize that harmony is what you want most, your negative emotion goes away.
• Sometimes, we get stuck and tend to react to life rather than respond. With true intent behind the words one uses, the other person is put at ease. When focusing on harmony, you may take a fresh view of the issue at hand.
To create a positive conversation, expect that the other will be cooperative. If you worry about them being uncooperative and argumentative, that is what you will attract. Take the time to picture a conversation that will flow in harmony.
Think about the desired outcome before you even enter into the conversation. This will create a momentum to clearly convey your meaning. The combining of your thoughts, ideas and experiences have the potential to create something greater than you could create on your own.
Let go of what is not in common, where you disagree, and focus on where you are in harmony and do agree. And by the Law of Attraction you solicit more of what you do want.
If you believe and expect a harmonious outcome that does not have contradiction in your thinking, you increase the potential of both walking away happy. Keep in mind you can only control your own thoughts and emotions. Allow others the same and teach by example.
Trust yourself enough to allow others to be who they are.
Reference:
Hicks, E & J. The Law of Attraction. Hay House, 2006.
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