Have you ever watched helplessly while your “Inner Jerk” took over and made a complete mess out of a situation? Inside each of us lives a family of selves–Professional, Parent, Spouse, Pleaser, and Inner Jerk–to name a few. When one of them acts out, it’s usually a sign they are feeling ignored and rejected.

The concept of sub-personalities is an ancient one and influenced the work of psychological theorists like Freud and Jung. Jung did extensive work on identifying archetypal energies, which universally express themselves in human personalities worldwide. These ideas also influenced the work of gifted family therapists, such as Virginia Satir.

If this sounds like Multiple Personality Disorder (MPD), it’s not. Actually MPD is treated by helping the disowned selves to connect and communicate with each other again. The state of our mental health is deeply affected by how well our inner family is getting along, and how aware we are of the dynamics between the various selves. The Voice Dialogue technique, developed by Hal and Sidra Stone, is a simple way to begin the process of getting to know your inner family.

Some real life examples of working with inner selves:

KT, a loving mother, is walking with her son and their four dogs. She’s in a bad mood for no identifiable reason, and the yipping playfulness of her entourage is tromping on her last nerve. They discover a mud puddle–she explodes, yelling at her son and kicking the dogs. Later she realizes what happened: I was being a real jerk. We were supposed to be playing and having fun. Then I suddenly remembered to check myself and there was my Inner Jerk. I pictured myself hugging her, like I’d do for my son if he was having a bad day. The image snapped me out of my funk and I was able to apologize to my son, pat the dogs, laugh at myself and enjoy the rest of the walk.

In processing this later, she discovered she had been ignoring her own need to play in mud puddles. Her Inner Jerk was acting out to get her attention and, as it often happens when we “diss” a part of ourselves, she directed her inner frustration at her loved ones. Her homework assignment for the week was to go play in her own mud puddle.

HJ, a gifted writer, is struggling with a serious case of writer’s block. A deadline is looming and he is staring at a blank screen. He is encouraged to explore his inner selves and finds that his Critic is fighting with his Muse. He is led through a dialogue between the two and makes an interesting discovery, they both want the same thing–quality writing. They each have a role in the process: the Muse creates and the Critic edits. They are fighting for control, leading to the block. The dialogue leads to a fascinating solution. The Critic agrees to step back while the Muse is drafting; the Muse agrees to step back while the Critic is editing.

So, next time you find yourself being an unbearable tyrant, try a little loving on that Inner Jerk. If your inner casts of characters are quarreling, call a timeout and see if you can’t get them to agree on a common goal, even if their means of getting there are different. An interesting side effect of this inner work is it also works marvelously with difficult people. Maybe you can’t bring yourself to hug them, but try softening your heart and see what happens.

References:

1. Satir, Virginia. Your Many Faces. Berkeley, CA: Celestial Arts, 1978.

2. Jung, Carl G.. Memories, Dreams, Reflections (Aniela Jaffe, Ed.; Richard & Clara Winston, Translators). New York: Random House, 1961.

3. http://www.voice-dialogue-inner-self-awareness.com

Written By Rev. Jack R. Elliott,

Author and Spiritual Life Coach |

Dear Rev. Jack, “Is there one quick thing I can do to break the blues? I find myself sitting on my couch, clicking away on my remote–watching endless hours of TV. I know that this isn’t me, but I come home from work on Friday evening and I’m just exhausted. The next thing I know, its Monday morning and the grind begins all over again. – Bertha

Dear Bertha,

I recommend that you spend some time with your Mother–Mother Nature that is:

Go on a walk with her, you’ll be amazed. I believe that Spirit uses Mother Nature to teach us what we need to know, to transform our own lives. In my twenty plus years as an HR Executive, I noticed that many of my co-executives went for a walk at lunch time. After a few weeks of being the only person in the employee dining room, I decided to walk as well. To assure that I would do it, 12:00 to 12:30 p.m. was marked on my appointment calendar so that my assistant wouldn’t book an appointment during my 30 minute walk.

The first day or two were hard. I kept looking at my watch, as to distract the mind chatter, which was endless: “I should answer Harry’s email; I have that huge deliverable at 2:00, I should be working on that; my feet hurt–why did I wear these shoes…” and so on. But I stuck to it. On the third day, I noticed the scent of some roses as I walked by a neighboring building. “Why are these here?” I answered myself, “They’re here to be enjoyed by the people who walk by.” I was surprised I hadn’t noticed them the prior two days.

The next day, I gave myself a challenge: to notice something else in nature that I hadn’t noticed the day before. What I noticed was flowering ground cover, beautifully stacked rocks, and artfully manicured lawns surrounding the neighboring office buildings. Prior to my daily walks, all of this had gone by unnoticed. Soon, I was excited about my noontime walk, for I knew that Mother Nature had another surprise for me, just around the corner.

I remember one day, when spring was just becoming summer, the warmth of the sun seemed to wash over me as I took my walk. It felt so good. I asked myself, “When was the last time you felt this good!” I couldn’t remember. The image that did come to mind was me as a child. I couldn’t wait to finish my breakfast, so I could get “outside.” When I was a child, I lived for the outdoors. I relished the feel of the wind against my face as I rode my bike down to the playground. The smell of newly mowed grass awakened my senses, and provoked me to kick off my shoes and socks just so I could feel the warmth of the carpet of green beneath my feet.

I remember, lying in the grass for hours taking in the rich blueness of the sky; making up imaginary stories from the imagines I formed in my mind from the clouds as they passed by overhead, “Look it’s a bunny!” I loved watching the tree tops sway in the breeze, and the sound that wind made as it passed through the trees. I was both amazed and comforted by nature. This must be why they call it “Mother Nature,” I mused.

While I’ve always loved the autumn colors, it’s spring that often amazes me. Early one May, I had gone out to gather the morning papers and I noticed that the Crêpe Myrtle Tree near my front door had the tiniest buds–just about to pop! I remember thinking that by the next week, the tree would be in full bloom, but I’d miss it because I was going to be gone.

Later that day, I was working in my den, and I noticed that the day had turned out to be warmer that I had anticipated. Not warm enough for the air-conditioning, but a perfect day to open a window. As I opened the window, I noticed the tree. Something had covered it. I dashed outside to see what had covered the tree only to notice that each and every bud had opened up! The unusually warm day had caused the tree to transform in just five short hours. The tree was filled with beautiful red flowers and rich, fresh green leaves. I was awestruck by nature once again.

As I went back to my writing, I realized that Mother Nature is a great teacher. If a tree could transform in five hours, why couldn’t I? Spirit gave me that metaphor for a reason. Spirit used nature once again to remind me that what may seem to be now, in just a moment, may very well be something totally different.

So Bertha, I invite to see your world from a different point of view. Go for a walk in nature. Let Spirit and nature reveal to you what you need to see. The rain will cleanse you. The sun will surround you with warmth. The Ocean will humble you when your ego becomes too large. The earth will ground you and support you as you take a stand. The mountains will inspire you to grow bigger than you could ever imagine. The flowers, and their fragrance, will remind you that there is a sweet, sweet Spirit that is always with you. Enjoy your walk!  – Rev. Jack

Written By Rev. Jack R. Ellitott,

Author and Spiritual Life Coach |

Dear Rev. Jack, “I am paralyzed with fear. I have nightmares every night. Do you have any insight for me?” – Linda, from Sacramento.

My dear Linda,

First let me redefine fear for you. I believe fear is nothing more than an anagram. My friend and mentor, Terry Cole Whittaker taught me that fear is truly an anagram for “false expectation appearing real.” Your question about fear and your nightmares reminded me of a story she’d tell to illustrate what she had been taught as little girl. The story goes something like this:

“There was a little boy who night after night had the same dream of a vicious monster creeping into his bedroom. The monster would fly up from the end of the bed belting out a horrendous screech as fire spewed from his mouth.

The little boy would scream with terror and run from his bed down the stairs and throughout the house as the monster chased him. The dream was so horrifying; but before the monster ever caught the boy, he would awaken and then tremble the whole night–fearing the dream would come again.

One night, the monster came again. This time, the monster seemed more vicious and threatening. As the boy ran from his room, the monster got closer and closer. The boy ran down the stairs and back up again with the monster’s hot fiery breath at his back. As he reached the top of the stairs, the door to his room was locked. Not knowing what to do he turned toward the monster and screamed, “What will you do to me?”

The monster paused and looked at the boy and said, “It’s your dream kid. I can only do to you, what you believe I can do to you.”

The boy realized that night that he has the power over any demon, monster or fear he could imagine. He never had that dream again because he understood that fear is merely a false expectation appearing to be real.

What we fear often isn’t based on any factual data, but none the less, the fear often renders us paralyzed. Many times we hear actors tell us that “stage fright,” or the fear of performing, kept them from sharing their talent with the world. But then something happened, and they faced their fear, took a risk and realized that what they have feared would happen, never happened.

A client of mine was in financial crisis and about to lose her home. She was falling behind on her mortgage payments and horrified that the woman who held the mortgage on her home would kick her out. Each time her phone rang, her stomach turned. And if the mortgage holder called, she’d toss the phone under a pillow; she was horrified to hear what the mortgage holder would say. She would even delete the voice mail message without ever listening to it.

Finally, she realized that fear was driving her life. While she didn’t have the courage to call her mortgage holder, she did have the courage to write her a letter, acknowledging her financial situation and asking for the mortgage holder’s understanding.

A few days later, her phone rang; she didn’t recognize the number so she took the call. It was her mortgage holder. “Honey, I so understand; everyone is in crisis these days. I’ll tell you what, for the next year, could you pay half of your mortgage payment? Could you do that, sweetie?” My client was so shaken by the mortgage holder’s kindness she could barely get out a meek little “yes.”

Now my client can afford to stay in her home. But more importantly, she realized that had she faced her fears, and called the mortgage holder sooner, she would not have agonized for three months over something that wasn’t real to begin with. The monster in her dream was of her own creation.

Eleanor Roosevelt is credited with saying “Do one thing a day that scares you.” Linda, I believe if you look your monsters (fears) in the face, instead of giving into them, you will be able to say, “If I can face this, then I can take anything that comes along.” By doing so, you take your power back and no longer project it on to your imagined demons and monsters. – Rev. Jack

Rev. Jack Elliott is a Spiritual Life Coach. You may reach him at revjack@revjackrelliott.org.

Written By Rev. Jack R. Elliott, Author and Spiritual Life Coach |

There comes a time in each of our lives when we evolve more fully into the being we are “called” to be. I call this the age of our Spiritual Maturity. It is the season of our life for teaching and for our most essential learning. This maturity does not happen at any given chronological age–but often comes in what Carl Jung would call the “autumn” of our life.

For me, I’ve come to understand in the autumn of my life, that I am called to teach that which I have experienced, rather than that which I’ve merely, or intellectually, understood. While, I can read and understand concepts and principals, it is not until I internalize those concepts and principals (see them as a manifestation or lessons received) will they become fully integrated into my psyche–my being. Once that has happened, Spirit always finds an opportunity for me to turn around and to share the revelation (teach) with someone else. Such a lesson is the lesson of “detachment,” which can only be understood when one is Spiritually Mature.

You might ask: “What is detachment, and how do I know if I’m spiritually mature or even in the autumn of my life?”

It is in the autumn of your life when you can see yourself as detached from “the other.” This “other” may be your biological parents, spouse, job, athletic skill, or anything outside of ourselves that we have used as a label to describe who we say we are. For example, one might say “I am a computer technical,” or “I am an Oscar winning actress,” or “I’m John and Mary’s son.” It is only when you detach from “the other” and become “Individualized” can you truly reflect your higher self, know who you are or accept your Spiritual calling.

When “detachment” occurs, the Divine (Spirit, God) will be expressed as real, present and profound to you. Rather than being “attached to,” you come to understand that you are “one with” the other people in your life. Detachment doesn’t mean others won’t be in your life, it means you will feel loved and nurtured on an immediate and intimate heart level, without “needing” them in your life. Remember this: No one has been called (brought) into your life to define you or to complete you, nor have you been called into their life to define or to complete them. Once you are “detached,” you are free to divinely “be in the flow” with the others in your life. When this is obtained, then you have obtained Spiritual and Psychological maturity. To be in the flow is to be one with Spirit.

Are you wondering what Spirit has called you to teach? You have been called to teach all the good that has been “revealed” to you. You are called to share those “ah-hah” moments that inspired you, made an impression on your psyche, or changed your direction or perception of life. Start with the moments that changed your life for the better.

“But Rev. Jack, Who am I to teach?”

Don’t worry about this. Once you know what it is that you’ve been called to teach, Spirit will reveal the student.

I love questions. If you have questions about how Spirit (God) has influenced or not influenced your life, ask and we’ll discuss your questions in future columns. Write me at elliott209@live.com.

Every teen has the potential to achieve great success; and our school systems and home lives could do better to ignite their inner resources, and to reassure them with strategies to succeed in life.

There are six qualities of successful teens. Kids who demonstrate these qualities early on will grow, develop and build inner muscles that will help them achieve great success in their future. Habits and qualities shape their destinies in life. They will carry on through adulthood what they learn about themselves today, and be more certain about who they are as it comes time to enter their future.

Here are the 6 qualities:

Heart: Teens who meet challenges with passion and an inner connection to self-win! Our goal as parents is to re-direct our kids to the heart. The heart never lies and beholds our greatest truth, which builds amazing amounts of character in our teens.

Adaptability: A teen’s ability to move through challenges and opportunities depends on their ability to remain emotionally flexible, to adjust as necessary and to maintain living their own best life. Teens who lack causative skills are more likely to live in frustration and resignation.

Trust: This is a big one! What grade were you in when you learned how to trust yourself? It’s not something that is taught, but created from within. The ability to know with absolute certainty that you can follow your gut is the most valuable of all qualities. Can you imagine where the world would be if Dr. King did not trust his gut and mission? If Gandhi did not trust his intuition?

A teen’s greatest fear is that they may fail and let their parents down. Trusting their gut is the remedy to overcome fear of failure.

Commitment: Most teens think commitment is an emotion; it’s not. It’s a never ending, daily action or series of actions required to achieve a goal, NO MATTER how they feel. When teens understand that commitment allows them to break through any challenge, fear escapes them.

Responsibility (solution oriented): How teens respond to challenges and opportunities will dictate their life and shape their future. Teens who respond negatively to challenges will live in avoidance, not action. Teens who realize they have a choice in every moment take on their lives as leaders, not followers.

Responsibility is our job as parents. It’s not about telling our kids what to do; that’s dictatorship. Responsibility is about providing choices for our teens, so they can decide how to respond to their own life.

A voice: The power of self-expression is vital to their well-being; and builds a certainty about who they are. Teens who discover how powerful their voice is, especially when the odds seem against them, are teens who will be effective in their lives as adults.

Coach Carl has been a Peak Performance Coach for more than 11 years and is the Founder of Every Child Healthy Network. For more info on Coach Carl and Fit, Wise & Amazing Kids camp, visit online at www.EveryChildHealthy.com.

At a time when our country is facing war and questioning its leadership, we should be reflecting on our own leadership styles. It isn’t through trying to change those already in leadership roles that can create real change in our country, but through changing how we lead ourselves and others that will make a significant difference in our day-to-day realities.

Whether you are a business leader, parent, or simply “leading” your own life, there are two types of leadership styles, Inspiring and Controlling. There are 10 main characteristics that help define the difference between these two types of leaders. We put them in juxtaposition, not to make one bad and/or good, but to simply bring awareness to your own leadership style so you can make a different choice if you find yourself falling into any one of the characteristics of the Controlling Leader.

An Inspiring Leader is authentic; they operate from higher ground principles and make their decisions coming from a place of love, whereas a Controlling Leader upholds a façade; they operate from lower ground principles and are coming from a place of fear. In our world today, there is a shift that is happening among individuals, as well as in the business world, from being ego-driven to soul-driven in our personal and business missions.

Following are the top 10 characteristics that define these leadership styles:

1.) An Inspiring Leader is open to change and is always looking for better and easier ways of doing things. Their decisions are based on the greater good of all and not solely on one individual. There is an ease about them because they live in divine flow trusting in a higher process. A Controlling Leader fights and resists change. They live in the past and because they have a need to control, often are working with hidden agendas to maintain this perceived control. They always seem stressed and are constantly pushing themselves and pushing others.

2.) An Inspiring Leader lives from their Soul and Spirit. Their family or business becomes the vehicle in which they assist others in changing and growing. They know who they are and why they are here and operate their life from a clear set of core values. A Controlling Leader lives from their ego and personality. They think they know it all and have a deep-seated need to be right. They use their family or business for self-recognition. They resist soul searching or searching for a deeper meaning in life.

3.) An Inspiring Leader is flexible, responsive and adaptable. They are connected to a bigger vision with “big picture thinking” and the awareness that we are all in this together! They are not threatened or intimidated by people with status or money. They accept 100% responsibility for their leadership style and not only admit but apologize when they are wrong. A Controlling Leader is inflexible, reactive and positional. They are disconnected from the bigger picture focusing on “what’s in it for me.” They are threatened or intimidated by people with more money or a higher position or status. They do not take responsibility for their leadership style, but place fault on others and will ignore the situation when an apology is in order.

4.) An Inspiring Leader acknowledges their strengths and weaknesses. They surround themselves with people that complement their weaknesses and capitalize on their own strengths. A Controlling Leader denies their strengths and tries to cover up their weaknesses. They surround themselves with people who are less talented than themselves to make themselves look good.

5.) An Inspiring Leader will be solution-oriented, helping others to identify and solve their problems. A Controlling Leader will be problem-oriented focusing on the negative and what’s wrong or who’s wrong and stay stuck in the problem.

6.) An Inspiring Leader is always giving the credit away to others where a Controlling Leader will not only take the credit, but will do so even if it isn’t theirs to take! As Lee Iacocca said, “One can accomplish great things when they no longer care who gets the credit.”

7.) An Inspiring Leader builds people up, empowers them to really go for it and spawns other authentic leaders. They provide direction and guidance and encourage others to believe in themselves. A Controlling Leader keeps people down below their “level” wanting them to stay dependent and small. They provide very little direction and act as if they know it all.

8.) An Inspiring Leader unites the people in their family or organization. They pass on positive feedback that creates respect and unity among others, where a Controlling Leader will pass on gossip and negative feedback creating division.

9.) An Inspiring Leader creates an open forum for ideas to flow freely from everyone and encourages others to express their ideas. A Controlling Leader creates a forum for their own ideas and has a deep-seated need for it to be their idea and their way, becoming defensive or reactive to others feedback.

10.) An Inspiring Leader is emotionally connected to what’s going on within the organization or family. They understand that quality time is not planned but is spontaneous and comes with quantity time. They feel the energy of those around them. They remember where they’ve come from and maintain compassion for others. A Controlling Leader “leads from the desk”, and is out of touch with what’s really going on within the dynamics and energy of the organization. They forget where they’ve come from and end up making decisions that can hurt people.

This list of characteristics helps raise our awareness as to whether we are coming from a controlling or inspiring place in our lives. Awareness is the starting point to change. The next step is learning how to uncover the issue and/or suppressed energy within us that was causing us to control in the first place. Once the issue has been correctly identified, can we release it, should we choose to. These are the keys to becoming an Inspiring Leader on a more consistent basis.

It may seem unusual to label the rescuer in this triad as part of the problem; but the triad is a vicious cycle, and cannot exist, particularly in one’s mind, without the rescuer. When the victim moves through the need to look outside of him/herself for rescue, and instead look at one’s own choices to find the cause of the imperfect situation, then he/she ceases to be a victim, and begins to take on personal responsibility and therefore personal power.

An example is an abusive relationship. The person who is being victimized sees some reason to stay and continue to be abused. It may be because of low self-esteem, or the perception that it’s impossible to make a living outside of that particular relationship, or for any number of reasons. The victim, which is most often a woman, may fantasize about a rescuer: a knight on a white horse, who comes and carries her away from the abuser. Or she may look to the abuser to change his personality, and cease the abuse. In effect, that is expecting the abuser to be the rescuer, and in most situations, that’s not likely to happen.

We all have free will, which is the freedom to choose; and we all continuously choose every day, even if it’s to choose not to choose. We are so free we can choose bondage, because there is always someone willing to make choices for those people who are unwilling to make their own.

Always remember that the law of attraction causes the victim to draw, to his/her experience, those who have a like consciousness but are on the other side of it; like the two sides of a coin. Those who feel abused draw to themselves those who will provide more of that experience until that attitude is shed. Have you noticed that victims of dysfunctional relationships hang out together? They discuss their abusers and commiserate with each other, focusing their attention on what they don’t want and therefore attracting more of the same. To get away from that energy, you have to stop talking about it and stay away from others who consider themselves “abused.” When you change your thoughts and your story, you’ll be attracting different kinds of people, neither abusers nor the abused. You’ll begin to come into your own power. Then no rescuer is needed.  Maybe assistance in the form of mental, emotional or even financial support for a time, but assistance is very different from rescue. Assistance is empowering. Rescue is disempowering.

Another example is the economy as abuser, you as the victim. That’s an attitude that is very widespread right now, and most are expecting the abuser to turn around and be the rescuer. If people would spend only one tenth of their time thinking and talking about how they can do things differently than they did in the past, and therefore look at different ways of creating income, they would be attracting ideas that could create prosperity. But when you continue to talk about how bad it is, and tell the same old story, you continue to attract situations which will prove to you how bad it is. Law of attraction is an equal opportunity law. You get what you think, believe and expect. If you tune into 98.6 on the radio, you’ll not receive 101.2 because the vibrational frequencies don’t match up. If lack and limitation thinking is 98.6 and prosperity is 101.2, then prosperity will whiz right on by you, and be received by someone who’s expressing possibility thinking. Once we realize that this is a vibrational universe, and we get only what we’re attracting through our invisible thoughts, beliefs and expectations, our lives will quickly change for the better.

Have you noticed how many times a rescuer becomes the victim? Take the example of children in a family who become addicted to drugs or alcohol. The family panics and gets together all their resources to send that child to a rehabilitation clinic, trying to rescue him/her. Many times, the addict may not have made the choice to quit, so after the rehabilitation time, they go right back to drugs. Who’s the victim now? The rescuers have become the victims, as they borrow against their home or borrow from relatives, to send that child back again for more rehabilitation.  What’s the answer? Think about it. I’m sure it will occur to you immediately. Why don’t you do it? Because the influence of government, religions, education, media, the culture/society or your friends/extended family say do this or do that. Is society paying your bills? Are your friends paying your bills, and will they take responsibility for their advice? It is time to make your own decisions, not let someone else make them for you. The book entitled, Don’t Let Your Kids Kill You: A Guide for Parents of Drug & Alcohol Addicted Children explains how you can learn not to be a victim, not to be conned and not to feel guilty. Take up the mantle of responsibility for your own happiness and stand forth in your own power.

Become more aware of situations in which you are willingly playing the role of the victim. Who’s the abuser? The economy? The government? The weather? God? The IRS? Your ex? Your kids? The banks? Your parents? Think through this. Decide to take charge of your own life by changing your mind and looking at things as a victor, rather than a victim. Think again before you lurch toward rescuing someone as a knee-jerk reaction. Realize that your actions may be crippling them instead of helping them, and may be postponing that much-needed personal decision to take the consequences of their own decisions. There will always be abusers as long as we see ourselves as victims. When the victim consciousness disappears, and we make the effort to stand up for ourselves, abusers will simply not have anyone to abuse.

It seems that human consciousness is in the process of experiencing quite a transition right now. Things are coming together in a way which we could not have consciously orchestrated, and yet it can all turn out magnificently positive if we begin to take responsibility for what we think, believe and expect. As we turn off the programmer (TV) and begin to let go of that constant drumbeat of fear and bad news, we can re-program ourselves to be empowered, maybe for the first time in our lives. How can human consciousness rise to a higher level if we think of ourselves as victims? It can’t happen. So let go of the deadly mental habits of living as a victim or rescuer, and by letting go, take charge of your own life and your own level of consciousness.

References:

1. Hicks, Esther and Jerry. The Amazing Power of Deliberate Intent, Hay House, 2006.

2. Green, George. Becoming. Bridger House Publishers, 1995.

3. Marciniak, Barbara. Bringers of the Dawn. Bear & Company Publishing, 1992.

For more info, contact June Milligan, specializing in helping people learn how to let go of dysfunctional thinking, at (775) 786-9111 or visit online at www.joyfulchanges.com

For some, success comes easy and for others it has been difficult. Some have found the success they were looking for, and then proceeded to consciously (or unconsciously) sabotage it. The truth is, success is available to all of us, and we all deserve to have an abundance of it. It can be mastered by those who choose to live their life in alignment with Universal Law–a network of higher ground principles that point the way to a life of harmony, authenticity and simplicity.

When we consciously use these higher ground principles in our life, we can transform and accomplish anything (as long as we are not imposing our will upon others). For these are the laws that govern our personal and professional success or failure, depending on how we choose to use them.

We live in a Universe of Law and Order. These are definite laws that apply to every activity in life–the unseen forces that make or break every individual, and or company. An individual is positive or negative, happy or miserable, rich or poor, depending on how effectively they work with the laws of their own nature. These timeless laws are completely impersonal. Universal Law is here for us to use as we choose. The word “Universal” implies they are for everyone–applying to any and every situation in life.

These laws are immutable. Whether we are aware of them or not, they operate 100 percent of the time–all the time–every time. The Law of Cause and Effect is just as real as the Law of Gravity. They include such laws as the Law of Discovery, Law of Manifestation, Law of Transformation, Law of Mental Equivalency, and the Law of Attraction. To better understand what causes success in our life, we will explore two principles in this article: The Law of Cause and Effect & The Law of Reflection.

One of the multitude of ways in which the Law of Cause and Effect operates is that the energy we send out through our thoughts, words and deeds (known as cause), eventually returns to us in our everyday life experiences (known as effect). The Law of Reflection teaches us that our outer world (known as effect) is a direct reflection of our inner world (known as cause). We never see the cause; we only see the effect, which loudly affirms the nature of its cause.

If our tendency has been to deal with the effects in our personal or professional life, instead of seeking out and correcting the cause, then the effect will simply repeat itself. It must…it is Universal Law. Whether our experience is one of reoccurring headaches, or a repetitive pattern of high turnover in our business, there is a cause, a reason as to why it is happening, or it wouldn’t be happening. Every effect has its cause and every cause has its effect.

In the case of healing a physical ailment, like reoccurring headaches, we need to acknowledge that the aching feeling felt in the head is an effect–not a cause. If you want the headaches to go away once and for all, you must identify and deal directly with the cause. Some have come to my seminars with a headache. I will help them to release the thoughts and feelings that were causing their head to hurt and the headache goes away.

Our attitude is a reflection of what’s going on within. A business that’s loaded with difficulties and hard times could be the effect of one’s negative thoughts, emotional imbalances, and insecurities, lack of direction and goals, or negative control dynamics that are motivated by some inner fear (the cause). These effects are great teachers. For when we operate our lives on higher ground, we recognize pain and dysfunction as a signal that is telling us something isn’t working. Life is our greatest teacher and it teaches us, by cause and effect. Our life consistently mirrors back to us what is going on inside of us–be it positive or negative, this is the Law of Reflection.

If we’re working in an organization and we’ve been silently thinking of and resenting the fact we are underpaid or that we are not appreciated; that we deserve more money or greater recognition; we are subconsciously severing our ties with that organization. The individual has set this law in motion and one day will experience the effects, which loudly affirms the nature of its cause and the operating manager/leader eventually says to this individual, “we have to let you go.” Actually, the individual let themselves go by their own repetitive pattern of self-sabotaging thoughts and negative feelings. It is our dominant thoughts and feelings that influence the quality of our words and actions. This is what Ralph Waldo Emerson meant when he said, “The origin of every action is a thought.”

Every so often, we pretend that we were the victim; we had nothing to do with it…it just happened. Success does not happen by accident and neither does failure. Things do not happen, as many people in the past have thought, they come to pass and are a result of conscious or unconscious beliefs, intentions, motivations, choices and habitual patterns of thinking, feeling and speaking. The energy we send out returns to us in the form of our own life experiences. In other words, whatever we habitually think, feel, say or do will eventually return to us in like manner. It’s the Boomerang Principle, “what goes around, does come around.”

Wisdom is knowing in advance what the effect will be of a cause. Your thought patterns and feelings live in the inner world of cause and are the seeds for future deeds. The only thing that will move you to a higher place in life is the quality of your thoughts and feelings. Raise the quality and vibration of your thoughts and feelings today and you’ll change your life for the better tomorrow.

When we consciously choose words and deeds that bring happiness and success to others, the fruit of our karma becomes happiness and success. Discipline yourself to think kind thoughts when thinking of others. Thinking kind and positive thoughts causes you to feel better about you and your world. Remember, you are creating your future experiences with your most repetitive “NOW” thoughts. Learning how to release those thoughts you don’t want to have manifest in your day to day reality is the key.

By Taking Responsibility For The Life You Have

We have major problems in the world today, not only worldwide but problems in our individual lives around the dynamics of relationships, including our spouses, our friends, our families, our business partners, as well as the relationships with things like finances and careers.

While we all engage in many forms of relationships on a daily basis, most people are operating within them with a very low level of awareness. The problem is they think this is the highest level of awareness that exists. To better understand this concept we first need to look at choice and how it relates to our current circumstances. When it comes to our choices, there is one thing you can go to the bank on and that is this: every time we make a choice, that choice must be followed by a consequence that can only reflect the quality and depth of the choice that was made prior to the experience of the consequence.

Most people are not aware that the reason why their life is the way it is today and everyday is because of them! It’s not because of their ex-mate or ex-business partner, even though there are some that have convinced themselves that “he did it to me” or “she did it to me” or “they did it to me” and they are going to pay! But the reality is the only person who is going to pay is you! This person who so-called “did it to you” could be off in Hawaii having a great time and could even be transforming their own lives into something better. Meanwhile, you’re back here saying, “Oh, they’re going to pay!” and the one who’s really paying is you. Why? Because you are the one who’s holding the negative energy! It was your choice! You chose at some point in your life to not only hold others in negative energy but to start accumulating more of its like! Why? Because you’re going to be right, because you know it all, because you’re smart and you have everything under control. Meanwhile, your life is reflecting back to you, you weren’t as smart as you thought you were. Your life is reflecting back to you that something is way out of balance.

In our country we have more wealth that is available to us than any other country in the world and yet we have more people who are struggling financially, barely making it from paycheck to paycheck and don’t even have $5,000 in their bank account. These are people that have been working for 30 or 40 years, eight to five, five days a week like robots. They are doing the same thing everyday from early in the morning to late at night. They are on automatic, but they don’t know they are on automatic! They are working the so-called dream by doing their eight or ten hours a day, five maybe six days a week and according to the statistics the average person at the age of 65 will end up dead broke! Why is that? Now some people might answer that question with “That’s just the way life is, life has to be a struggle!” Yet, “life has to be a struggle” is nothing more than a thought form that they’ve turned into their own personal law. It’s them believing that life has to be a struggle and because they are believing it within their heart of hearts, because they are believing it within their cellular structure of the way they think about themselves and the way they feel about themselves, that is what now manifests in their life. What better way for this to show up in someone’s life than that of their finances.

It’s time to start making better choices and one of the highest choices you can make for yourself is to take responsibility for your own life. Start choosing to let go of all this negative energy you have been holding on to because the truth is, the more negative energy you have inside you, the more of a prison you will feel like you are in. There is no freedom in negativity. The more negativity you hold on to, the more you will feel like your life is stuck or you’re living out the same old story over and over again.

So many people come across good opportunities but can’t access them because the moment they start to go toward it, their fears are activated that haven’t been cleared from with inside themselves and they end up making a choice to not go there. Or if they do choose to go there, they end up sabotaging it which becomes another choice. Perhaps their belief system or program is “I’m not good enough” or “others make me wrong”. If this is a program that they have been running for a good portion of their life, then it’s just a matter of time and someone will come into their life and do exactly what they have been believing deep inside and end up making them wrong or making them feel not good enough.

If this has happened to you, and if you haven’t been paying attention, you’re going to think that they really “did it to you”. If you aren’t willing to let that go, it’s just a matter of time and you get to go for round number twelve. Someone else will come in and do the very same thing that the last person just did, only every time somebody comes in and does the same thing, the energy or the experience becomes louder. The next experience or person may look different than the last but after the honeymoon is over and the negative experience reemerges, you realize, “Oh my gosh, I’ve just been sucked in again!” The reason you got sucked in again is because you haven’t been paying attention to what’s going on within you for the purpose of clearing that energy out from within your subconscious body.

Since you are always at choice, you can make it all about them one more time, or you can come to a point where you say, “I’ve had enough. I thought I knew what I was doing but it’s pretty obvious I really don’t. I’m tired of the pain, the confusion, the conflict, feeling like I’m constipated, not just physically, but financially and emotionally. I just can’t imagine that this is what life is really all about. I need to start making some serious changes.” Although this doesn’t feel like a good place to be, it actually is the best place you could be, because now you are ready to really start making choices that will truly empower your life.

There is a higher ground saying that goes, “When the student is ready, the teacher appears”. The truth is, when you are ready to go there, when you are ready to cleanse yourself for real, when you are ready to really evolve and mature and move toward the life that you really deserve and are willing to do whatever it takes for as long as it takes, then all of a sudden the right teacher materializes just for you! This will be the kind of teacher that can truthfully help you accomplish what you’ve now set yourself out to accomplish because you now chose it. Once you choose it and you are willing to back it up with a strong genuine commitment, now the magic can begin!

“To thine own self be true.” In other words, William Shakespeare was saying, “Be yourself.”

Coaching strategies abound say you will be more successful if you direct your life from the perspective of knowing yourself. But, how do you know when you are being true to yourself? Some decisions may be easier than others, especially when you have tested your values and have developed strong beliefs about how you want to live. The problem is that people often feel conflicted between opposing choices that are equally compelling. However, there are clues to interpreting your own repressed or hidden feelings so that you can be more fully aware of your whole self, allowing you to function from a more conscious or solid sense of yourself.

When you strive to live “holistically,” being congruent with your true self can help guide your decisions so that you feel “whole” in mind, body and spirit. Many psychologists discussed the concept of psychological “wholeness” over time. Fritz Perls developed Gestalt psychology, a German word which refers to a dynamic whole. Perls describes attaining self-awareness as a process of resolving the tension among competing needs, both within the self and between the self and the world. To most effectively resolve the tension and help guide your decisions, you must seek balance among competing needs. If you do not resolve the tension, you may become depressed, anxious, irritable, or ill. Perls says, “Discomfort is always a symptom of dishonesty. If you don’t express yourself honestly, you feel uncomfortable. The very moment you express yourself adequately, the discomfort goes.” So how can you tell when there is tension among competing needs, some of which you keep hidden from yourself?

There are a myriad of clues, both verbal and non-verbal, when you are betraying your true self when you speak. One non-verbal technique, for example, is the use of the “Facial Action Coding System,” which categorizes 47 different facial expressions to identify human emotions. This is used in research, with the assumption that your facial expressions are a more accurate indicator of feelings than your self-report. With that much variation, it is no wonder that people find difficulty in identifying the nuances of their own behavior and translating them into interpretations of self. To complicate matters, Perls tells us, the sense of self is in a constant state of dynamic change. To increase your own self-awareness and reveal hidden conflicts, you can begin by noticing your verbal expressions–especially the language you choose.

A verbal sign that you are acting consistent with your true self is when you begin statements with the pronoun “I” followed by verbs that declare who you are, such as, “ I am,” “I want,” “I need,” and “I feel.” When you are betraying yourself and giving in to others’ needs that do not support your true self, you may find yourself linking “I” statements with verbs such as, “I should,” “I ought to,” “I have to do (or be),” or, “I’m supposed to.” Those are demands that originate from outside of yourself, and these phrases indicate that you are not completely in agreement with the outside world and might be betraying yourself.

If you have difficulty identifying or expressing the intensity of your truth, notice whether you use the pronoun “you” instead of “I” to express yourself. This unconscious process allows you to speak from the third person, and avoids experiencing and taking full responsibility for your feelings. You may be anxious about expressing the depth and truth of your feelings because you are avoiding conflict, either within yourself or between yourself and others. For example, a young male patient, who was taught since early childhood that expressing vulnerable feelings is a sign of weakness, has recently lost his mother in a shocking tragedy. He protects himself and others from the strength of his feelings by describing his loss as follows: “You know, when you lose your mother at such a young age, you miss out on a lot of support that you might need in life.” To experience greater congruity within himself and to more fully experience his loss, the patient should change his statements from the perspective of “you” to “I,” as in, “Now that I have lost my mother at such a young age, I feel such a painful loss; and I realize how much I will miss her throughout life, especially during those important milestones when I need her love and support the most.” In this example, when the patient expresses his feelings more directly, he is better able to make contact with his feelings and to grieve and heal, regardless of external expectations.

This slight change in verbal expression can make an incredible difference in becoming congruent within the self and in resolving the tension among competing and unexpressed needs. There are many other verbal signs, as well as non-verbal body language, that indicate unresolved tension that blocks us from expressing our ever-changing true selves. Shakespeare could well have written, “To thine own self be true…in this moment” to describe the challenges of finding the balance among all of our competing needs, and speaking the whole truth of our inner selves.

References:

1. Ekman, P. and Friesen, W. (1978).  Facial Action Coding System: A Technique for the Measurement of Facial Movement.  Consulting Psychologists Press: Palo Alto, CA.
2. Perls, F. (1973).  The Gestalt Approach & Eye Witness to Therapy.  Ben Lomand, CA: Science and Behavior Books.
3. Perls, F. (1969).  Gestalt Therapy Verbatim.  Moab, Utah: Real People Press.

For more info, contact Dr. Catherine Neighbors, Licensed Clinical Psychologist, at (775) 322-4451.

Traditional advertising still works; it can be even more effective when it incorporates the new tools and rules of marketing. Your customers are bombarded daily by marketing messages from traditional mediums, and they are becoming increasingly good at filtering out the messages that interrupt their time and attention. Why spend more time and money trying to shout louder at your customers. Instead, understand that your customers want the most effective way to make reliable decisions about how to spend their hard-earned money.

Recommendations from friends or trusted others whom we have relationships with is always an effective form of marketing. People might not always believe your advertisements, but they will almost always believe what a friend tells them about you and your business. If your strategy does not rely heavily on word-of-mouth marketing, then you are not reaching all of your potential audience. Social media platforms (e.g. Facebook, Twitter, and blogs) saw an explosive growth in the last few years, and they give you and your business powerful opportunities to add new and more effective relational tactics to your traditional marketing and advertising efforts.

For example, last week I was thumbing through a magazine and saw an advertisement for a product that caught my attention. I wanted to learn more about this product and the company that offered it, but the advertisement only contained a phone number. Although a phone number works for some people, I, along with many others, prefer to research and order products online. I went to the internet and did a Google search on the company, but after five minutes of searching I still had no more information, so I gave up. That business wasted five minutes of my time, and they failed to close on a sale because they were missing something very important to today’s consumers. All businesses in today’s environment need an interactive, engaging website and the address for that website should appear on other forms of advertisements.

The way you operate the website is critical. It can’t be just another digital megaphone to shout at and interrupt customers. Instead, it needs to be a place where you attract customers by offering an engaging experience. Your goal is to take strangers and turn them into friends, and then to convert those new friends into customers.

To do this, your website should have a simple blog. Your blog provides valuable information that can help customers solve problems that matter to them. We do not trust people who are trying to sell us something for the sake of just “selling.” However, we do trust people who we think care about us and want to help us. The blog encourages customers to engage in conversation with you and others, around the valuable information that you offer. Over time, the content and conversation at your website will earn you the reputation as a trusted resource. As that happens, people will spread the word about you to their friends; people you never dreamed of reaching for you will reach out to you, and in much more effective ways.
Social media marketing is here to stay. Now is the time for you to learn how to use these new tools and rules of marketing to help your customers and your business prosper.

Bret L. Simmons, Ph.D., is an Associate Professor of Management in the College of Business at the University of Nevada, Reno. Learn more about Dr. Simmons by visiting www.bretsimmons.me . Dr. Simmons is a co-organizer of the social media marketing conference for business, SM@RT 2010, to be held in Reno, Nevada December 8-10, 2010.

For more information about the conference visit www.smart.unr.edu

Dear Forgive Coach:
One of my best friends is about to make the mistake of her life! She is going to marry a guy that NONE of us (her close friends) like and we all think he is a sociopath. We are all really upset about the situation and because I am going to be her Maid of Honor, I have been assigned by the group to take her aside and try to talk some sense into her. She is such a sweet girl and I can see what she is doing. Her parents had a nasty marriage and she couldn’t wait to get out of the house and make her own home and her own life and she has picked someone that I know is going to be emotionally abusive at the very least. I might risk losing her as a friend, but I can’t stand by and do nothing! Help!! – KR

Dear KR:
I believe you when you say you are trying to save your friend from a big hurt, but I feel I need to take you back to Radical Forgiveness 101! Radical Forgiveness is not just about taking a situation involving anger and resentment and shifting perception, as many believe. I hear so often that “I have nothing to forgive,” and so this very valuable technique of how to see the world gets passed over. Radical Forgiveness is most importantly about seeing that everything happens for a reason and we draw situations to us that will give us the opportunity to grow. By jumping in and trying to “save” your friend, you will only prolong a lesson that she must have a need to learn. You will most likely upset her and she will dig her heels in more firmly about being with this guy and at the same time feel alienated from a group of loving friends. Consider showing her your love by knowing that she will survive whatever she encounters and come out the other side as an even more beautiful person than she is right now. Believe that she has a Higher Power that is watching over her and this path that she is on is going to eventually lead her to growth and expansion. No one can walk in your shoes and that goes for all of us. Be there for her energetically for whatever she might need and you might all get a wonderful surprise with the outcome!

Blessings,
Dinny

Dinny Evans is a Certified Radical Forgiveness and Radical Manifestation Coach. She has been working with the Institute for Radical Forgiveness and Colin Tipping since 2007. To find out more about her coaching practice, her workshops and support groups, visit www.forgivecoach.com.

If you would like Dinny’s advice, e-mail your letter to Forgive@HBMag.com.

Dear Forgive Coach:
Lately, I seem to be surrounded by people who can’t tell the truth! At first it was just annoying little lies, for example someone said they returned a phone call and left me a message, and I know they didn’t. That is an example of many similar situations. I have always prided myself on telling the truth and being honest about everything.

Recently I was hit with a lie that was too big to just slough off.  The secretary in our office wanted to take an unscheduled vacation back east to a wedding. I knew this only because she told a co-worker.  She thought she wouldn’t get the time off on such short notice, so she had her husband call me and give me
some story about surprising her with this special trip to see her friend. I knew she had already made her plane reservations! That was the straw that broke this camel’s back. I fired her for being dishonest!

Now I feel terrible and resentful that she put me in this position. I feel like I’m the bad guy and we do not have a secretary. If she had just been honest, of course I would have given her the time off. But the damage is done and I can’t stop thinking about it, the resentment is eating me up. What can I do?   – BC

Dear BC:
Have you ever heard of the phrase and/or condition “If you spot it, you got it?”  I think you have a case of this! When someone shows up with a trait you claim to be so intolerant of, most often this is mirroring a behavior you have demonstrated in the past that you are so embarrassed about; you stuffed your shame and then have become extremely indignant of any such behavior in someone else.

Please, give this idea some consideration because I know your initial response will be to not agree with me. But take some time and see if you can pull up a memory, possibly a very old incident where you lied and were so ashamed that to protect yourself from those horrible feelings of guilt and shame, you went into complete denial. Then every time something comes up, someone else lies to you, that old memory tries to creep to the surface and you stuff it back down by reinforcing how committed you are to the cause of honesty!

This secretary gave you a huge opportunity to heal your own guilt and shame. Identify an incident (there are probably more than one) and live through it for a moment. Embrace your embarrassment and then forgive yourself for making a mistake and let it go! When we expect only perfection from ourselves, we inadvertently become intolerant of others, and that is a sure path to living in resentment.

As for your secretary, this situation unquestionably brought up something she attracted and hopefully, she will find a healing path for herself as well, if she chooses to.

Lovingly,
Dinny

Dinny Evans is a Certified Radical Forgiveness and Radical Manifestation Coach.  She has been working with the Institute for Radical Forgiveness and Colin Tipping since 2007.  To find out more about her coaching practice, her workshops and support groups, visit www.forgivecoach.com.

Find your niche market. It is crucial to know who it is that you intend to attract to your business. Consider what it is people want to buy, not just what you want to sell. Niche markets allow you to focus on meeting the needs of a smaller group of customers without compromising your chance to increase your appeal to a broader market. Successful niche players share a common set of traits. These include a deep understanding of the customers’ needs and the ability to stay engaged with them. The Ideal niche market company consistently produces quality, innovative products and possess a genuine regard for the well-being of both its customers and employees.

Get cash flowing ASAP. You must bring in more cash than you put out. The key is to make sure there is little to no gap between the time you pay for labor and stock inventory and the time you actually get paid. Ideally, you’ll find ways to get money up front and your cash gap will never be an issue. In a professional services business, you can ask for deposits on work up-front, with balances due on delivery. You can do the same in retail, especially on specialty items. Position them as an added value with a way to insure delivery by a specific date.

Keep your costs and expenses low; never pay retail, and look for used or gently used items to furnish your office or retail space. Paying vendors up front gives you leverage for negotiating better prices. Especially in this economic environment, where credit is at a premium, vendors are more willing than ever to find creative ways to finance transactions; a trend that will likely continue over time. Always overestimate expenses and underestimate revenues. Being conservative in your numbers doesn’t mean you are willing to accept those numbers, it just means you are arming yourself with realistic information…

Focus on sales and marketing. In business, nothing happens until a sale is made. From the beginning, you’ll need to find a good way to get leads, convert leads into sales and make sure you keep getting repeat sales from your customers. The way to do this is to find or create a marketing
and sales funnel system that you can work, test, and measure. This should be something that anyone in your company can utilize. Testing and measuring is key to this system. You can’t change what you don’t measure and you can’t tell if a program or strategy is working if you are not faithfully tracking your results.

Your strategy is really very simple. Always be thinking of ways to get more leads, convert those leads into customers, and increase the number of times those customers buy from you. Do any one of those things, while keeping costs down, and you will see more profits. Do all of them and you will see your business really take off!

Don’t discount, add value. Whenever you discount, you are taking money directly out of your pocket and your bottom-line profit. So don’t do it. Instead, create added value propositions all the way up and down your service line. Regardless of the industry, look to hold your price points, increase your margins with low-cost or no-cost extras and any kind of “freemium offerings”. In the end, those little things won’t cost you a lot, but will build up tremendous goodwill and word-of-mouth with your customer base.

Find a Profitable Location. Find a great location that is already frequented by your intended clientele. One way to accomplish this is by surrounding yourself with successful, like-minded business neighbors. It is Important to consider the building space; is it a space that they can build to suit?

Is there ample Parking? Is there a lot of natural light? Is it a convenient location for your customers? For example, are there good restaurants or other nearby businesses that might compliment what your own business has to offer?

There are no mysteries in business or in life; there’s just information you don’t know yet. Prepare as well as you can, knowing you will need to make changes and corrections. When equipped with the right strategy, you can cut time and get to your ultimate destination:
enjoying your own successfully thriving business.

Brad Sugars is the founder and chairman of ActionCOACH, the world’s number one business coaching firm. His “Business is Booming” tour kicks off in North America in March, and will cover 52 cities in the U.S. and Canada. For more information, visit businessisboomingtour.com.

Many of us have heard Albert Einstein’s definition of insanity, doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. If a change in your life is needed either because you want it for yourself or your doctor has recommended it, how can you move forward to a positive end and do that something different? Even if the change is wanted the motivation, resources, and support are often lacking. Deanna Mandichak is a health coach and Physical Therapist whose job is to coach, consult, counsel, encourage, motivate, problem solve, assist in removing obstacles and support her client in moving towards their personal goals to reach optimum health.

Deanna grew up in southern California and went to Cal State Long Beach, majoring in Physical Therapy. At 25 she married and moved to Reno to have a family and enjoy the easy access to skiing. Today her family life is busy with three children all under 10.

With an interest in science, Deanna knew she wanted to help people live better and be healthier. She was fascinated by the human body, which is what drew her to the field of Physical Therapy. She has worked for 17 years in outpatient orthopedics and women’s health. Through this work she began to wonder why some people would get certain illnesses or suffer pain and have difficulty recovering and others would progress in therapy and heal.

She was most interested in prevention, and felt discouraged by western medicine’s approach to health.

Deanna was further motivated by the loss of her mother and aunt to cancer, and how their medical doctors could not help them. She undertook some self-training and education on prevention, and achieving health with the guidance of a naturopathic doctor. During her research, she learned about “Life and Health coaching” as a new and growing arena to help people take control of their own health and achieve their goals. It also allowed her to address and alleviate some of her own health issues. She enrolled in a Coaching school and became certified. Currently, she uses these skills with physical therapy patients and individual coaching clients.

When working with Deanna there is an initial 60 to 90 minute consultation. She often works with doctors who have diagnosed a patient with a disease or chronic illness, to help coach them in making lifestyle changes needed to maintain or improve their health and reach the goals the doctors have prescribed. She also collaborates with professionals in other fields or practices that involves a client in need. In the consultation process she interviews the clients and draws out important answers to limitations.

Services of a coach include delving into issues, discovery of obstacles, problem solving to reach goals. After many available packages, Deanna sets up the guidelines for help, with a face to face meeting once a month, as well as twice a week contact, either by phone or email and a weekly newsletter.

What makes Health Coaching unique is it takes health care to a new level by approaching it from a different angle to give the power back to the individual, patient and client and resolve issues that prevent them from optimum health. This process is very hands-on, and through various exercises one stays on track, via written goals and dates to reach them.

The benefits are many. You will develop self confidence, lose weight, get physically fit, receive relief from ailments, feel empowered, reduce stress, eliminate bad habits, and take control of your health and life, all with the guidance of a Health coach. Having your health means being able to manage pain, stress, weight, illness and to boost immunity and have overall well-being. The ultimate goal is you aspire to have the life your deserve.

The greatest satisfaction for Deanna comes with seeing her clients’ success. Through this process, even when it gets tough, clients tend to respond with enthusiasm because they know deep down they need to make these changes. She is 100% committed to her clients by designing a program that works, and by making adjustments when necessary. She is their coach, there to help them “Self-manage” their condition and to motivate changes to improve health for the long-haul. Stop insanity, don’t continue down the same old path with the same old defeating patterns. Do something different and make that needed change, hire a Health coach and reach your health goals today.

For more info, contact Deanna Mandichak, Physical Therapist, Health Coach at (775) 853-5444.